Average amount of years dating before marriage
Last week I put out our premarital sex survey because I’d been getting a lot of comments, emails, etc.
talking about how people felt their premarital sex, even if it was with their now spouse, had damaged their marriage.
100% of those that didn’t take a stance, ended up having sex. Sadly only 23% of those who did make a commitment to abstain followed through with it.
So, here’s how it breaks down in our survey: So, does being raised Christian make a difference? Being raise a Christian, being taught that sex is to be reserved for marriage and then making a commitment to follow through with that makes a difference.
So, let’s segregate by those that had any type of sex before marriage (manual, oral, etc.) and see what we get: Those that had sex before marriage: No…no negative impact at all…. I didn’t make it to marriage completely clean either.
just in 4 of the 5 categories we measured…but hey, they’re content having less sex, so they get a point there. If you were raised in a Christian home were taught to abstain from sex before marriage, then you have a significantly higher chance of making a commitment to being a virgin your wedding day (84% instead of 16%). My (now) wife and I caved, even though we had both made commitments, even though we were taught, even though we were raised in Christian homes. I’ll tell you, we struggled for a long time with things like guilt and mistrust and confusion over what this meant, even though we never even kissed anyone besides each other. He forgives, and He heals, and if you can accept that forgiveness and healing, you can beat these statistics. We’ve gone from a sexless marriage to being called Christian sex educators!
Sadly, we have a high number of wives who are refused by their husbands, and those husbands aren’t represented in these numbers.Either have more, or be very intentional about teaching them about sex. Apparently not having siblings gets you into trouble… People saying that you have to make sure you’re sexually compatible and all that stuff. Those who lived with a sexual partner prior to marriage have a divorce rate of 25% compared to 5%. Whenever I ask her anything about this she gives vague replies, urging me to move on and look at the future instead of the past.I’d expressed intentions of joining Facebook and connecting with her batch mates in the hope of finding out about her past and whether she had sex before marriage. Normally I would tell you to close your eyes, take a deep breath and let it go.