Dating more than one man at a time
I’ve watched her go through all of the phases I went through when I was freshly out of a long-term relationship: thinking about dating; dating; embarking on a dating freeze; swearing off dating forever, with and without a solemn oath; and trying on every state in between.
I’ve also noticed that she’s happiest when she’s dating a couple of people at once.
Sami added: “Rotational dating doesn't mean you have to sleep with everyone.” 1.
I know how borderline insane that sounds, but I did that too when I was single: About six months after a long relationship ended, I dated two men, a professor and a crazy person, basically on two opposing sides of the spectrum, for about a month simultaneously. I knew I wasn’t serious about both, didn’t get hung up on either, and walked away bruise-free.
Of course, once I met someone stellar, I stopped with the two-timing and focused my energy on one wonderful man.
If you want to date more than one person, make sure that everyone involved understands this and is okay with it. Think about whether you’re ready for the difficult emotions and situations that come with dating multiple people.
If you’re dating someone, and you haven’t talked about the rules of engagement (including how exclusive you will be), don’t assume that they’ll be okay with you dating someone else at the same time. Not knowing whether it’s okay with your partner, or hiding what you’re up to, is a recipe for emotional disaster for everyone involved.