As a result, there are often times when you don’t recognize when your behavior towards people of color veers into problematic territory. But you may want to take my words to heart if you’d like to live up to those progressive memes you share on Facebook all the time.As a black man within the gay community, I recognize that shit all the time and have a few points I’d like to discuss with you. Let’s start with the epicenter of your problematic behaviors towards my kind: your dating app profile. Yea Daddy Right There” but I can’t help but notice that a lot of you get lost, like...Yes, people like what they like but sometimes the things people like are racist, like lawn jockeys or the current president of the United States.You can’t say you prefer one race of people as romantic partners, or anything really, to another because all of the people who belong to one race are not the same.As I’ve said before, I have had this conversation many times so I know what comes next. In social psychology there is a theory called The Mere-Exposure Effect. You can decide how best to “expose” yourself however you want but please, for the good of us POC who have to share this community with you, get to work.Simply put, the more we are exposed to someone, the more attractive they become to us. As gay men of color we get more than enough discrimination from the rest of the world. This sexualised reductionism is, concurrently, a form of sexual racism.
Fetishizing me is not a compliment, it’s propping up harmful sexual stereotypes and, it too, is racist. Think of it like learning a new language, better still, think of it like unlearning a racist one.
Almost as if it’s a magic phrase that just kind of ends the conversation and absolves you of your bullshit.
I’ll put aside the fact that broadcasting your distaste for an entire race, or multiple races, in the year 2017 is really dumb in addition to being racist as fuck, and just challenge the reasoning here head on.
I’m talking to you ― the cisgendered, white, gay men out there who hold no ill will towards minorities (especially black and brown ones) but somehow have never found themselves in bed with one. You mean well when it comes to race relations but, as a white man in...
the world, you must admit, you have no clue what it means to be racially discriminated against.