Good teen dating notes
If he's really nice then I might end up having a crush on him.But if he's a jerk then I probably won't like him." Kelsey, 16 said she's attracted to a guy who is "cute, smart, honest, funny, and treats me great." Priscilla, 13, said, "They have to be honest, respectful, down-to-earth, won't judge me, and love me for who I am.It also means having the same principles — like valuing honesty or showing respect.Misbah, 13, told us how important it is to share the same religion as her boyfriend: "Well, he's a Muslim, so yah!Musaka, 17, told us about his experience overcoming superficial differences: "It was this girl at my school.I really felt something was similar between me and her.
And now I really love her." It takes time to learn about each other and discover the deeper connections.This is something that experts call consensual validation.It means that we seek out people who mirror who we are as a way of reaffirming our values, beliefs, actions, and opinions.After a while, many people want to feel more connected to the person they're with.Like Lexie, 13, who said, "When you have a crush you are afraid to talk to them and you have butterflies, and when you are in love you can talk about anything with them and feel comfortable." Closeness is the bond that a couple develops when they feel comfortable enough to share thoughts and feelings that they don't share with anyone else.